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Came accross this post by Suzanne Hadley. Thought to share it: Buddies After a Break-Up von  Suzanne Hadley Following the re-publishing of my article  "Not Your Buddy,"  one reader asked me to address the topic of buddies after a break-up. She writes: The guy wants to continue having the benefits of the familiarity and the encouragement and cheerleading that the girl provided him with during the relationship, but also wants to "be free" and "move on." Is he crazy? When you have been in love with someone, I find it EXTREMELY hard to be "friends," even being cordial is hard at times. Especially when this guy has told you that you are the one and then flips it. I don't believe it's appropriate for men and women to be buddies after breaking up. I have remained friends with men I've had relationships with, but the familiarity had to end. This quote from J.R.R. Tolkien (provided by another  Boundless  reader) emphasizes the reason the broke...

Aimee Herd (September 30, 2008) The study found that with caring touch—holding hands, massage, hugging and kissing—blood pressure was lowered, stress hormones decreased in the blood and the positive hormone, oxytocin increased in the blood. EDITOR'S NOTE:  Many years ago the Lord taught me a lesson about touch and I've never forgotten it. (You tend not to forget the things the Lord shows you directly!) One night, after my husband and I had had an argument, I distinctly heard (not aloud) the Lord tell me to reach over and put my hand on my husband's arm, because "touch is important." That was the LAST thing I wanted to do since I was still mad. But the Holy Spirit kept prodding me. I told God I didn't want to touch my husband, and He said, "I DO. When you touch him it will be MY touch, MY love." How could I refuse that?! So I reached over and put my hand on my husband's arm—immediately I was immersed in God's love for him. It was remarkable. A...